He is without a doubt peculiar to imagine that the confesionario serves like source of intelligence to introduce a married moral and an ethical one on the family. It is not difficult to imagine what a priest listens in a confesionario: a husband confesses to have deceived his wife with another woman; soon the wife tells that fight him with her husband; that is to say, the confesionario turned into a receiver of the conjugal sins and their pathologies, but little on an alive, healthy and satisfied marriage, that it would have to be the one that, on the basis of its positive experiences, gave an example of married life to follow. Offers therefore the confesionario a suitable source of inspiration so that the theologians develop their ethics? Nevertheless the question on this subject that is heard more in the street is: What can say a priest in a confesionario to an overwhelmed man because it has done something badly, that surely does not know like solving the problems in its marriage? What will take to east house poor O-Man this poor woman? It is certain that it leaves from the controversy turns around if the priests they can give married advice or no, which seen from a critical perspective, would be comparable to as if a doctor it had only read on diseases but never it had treated a patient. Yes we put the example of a man married for 40 years, that servant to 2 or 3 children are and who knows the daily experiences and fights in the pair and like father, we will recognize that this is not learned in any school, nor in no book on infantile education. Each boy is unique and with his wife he will have lived hundreds on situations different from which to learn.
How can the priests who do not know these problems minimum to dare to give aid in this difficult subject? At the most they could give like directives the Ten Orders and the Sermon of the Mountain, saying to the person who goes to them: he returns to house and he thinks if what you are doing he agrees with the Sermon of the Mountain. But they would not have absolutely to carry out a married consultant’s office. He does not have to be surprised of which the married moral of the catholic church has been during long somewhat suffocating time, if one thinks only about the prohibition of the contraceptive pill and about the preservative, or all the rules that even arrived until the dormitory of the spouses. The neglect connected with the church in a subject so, things are expressed among others, in which it flees towards general considerations. We have been able recently it to observe again in an unintelligible declaration of the Pope, who with all seriousness said following with respect to the relation between the man and the woman: The relation man-woman, with its singularity, reciprocity and complementariness, constitutes without a doubt a main point of the anthropological question, that stops the contemporary culture is so decisive. Once again the church gives samples of which the more far it is of a subject, so many the more phrases and words without sense use, with this only tries to hide a deep ignorance of the same.